When you experience a breakup, what should you do?

 

Most of the problems experienced by unmarried adults are breakups. Breakup in love is commonly experienced by the world community in general, and of course for adults. However, if you are already very much in love, it is difficult to return your feelings to normal (normal) so that many want to die if they cannot bear the pain of being left by their lover. If you are experiencing a breakup with badly hurt feelings, don't be pessimistic, don't feel that you are alone going through it, you are just one of the millions of people who also feel the same way as you. The most important thing for you is how to control your emotions so that your hurt feelings do not go too far. In that sense, you have to live a normal life even though the pain still rages, you must be a wise, right? won't this unpleasant fact bring wisdom in your life? Here are some tips when you have a broken heart left by your lover.

1. Emphasize that you are not alone, there are still many people around you who love you.

Explain to yourself that you are not alone. You must have close relatives, whether they be sisters or brothers, father, mother, best friend and so on. Find the right person who makes you comfortable as a confidant. Make sure they really understand about you. Tell me the things you feel, release your emotions if that's possible. You don't need to be ashamed of your crying. Humans are creatures who need to cry, humans need to cry when they are sad. Old friends or friends who may have drifted apart from you due to distance and time are likely to get closer to you. Your siblings or family who you rarely see can be a good place to rest when you are struggling with this problem. Of course, when you have finished speaking your heart and your hurt feelings, you will experience a feeling of relief after speaking it up. I am sure, they will not object to your outpouring. Instead, they will be happy if you trust them to be friends with your heart.

2. Get closer to God.

You have to understand that there is a God who is all-hearing what you are complaining about. Be diligent in going to places of worship according to your religion. Bring out your complaints to God. It is sure to bring relief to you, that there is a very strong substance that will rule your life in the future. God must be all-hearing and will give someone the best as the most beautiful gift at the right time. It could be that you find your soul mate in a place of worship, of course, a man who is good and faithful.

 

3. Follow the activities that you like.

When you have free time, you should focus on your forgotten hobbies rather than thinking about the man who left you. You may like pets, what's wrong with joining a club that likes cats, hamsters, or others. You can also join a sports lover's association, whether it's tennis, volleyball, baseball or horse riding. Channeling your hidden hobbies or talents is a surefire way to relieve stress and fatigue in your heart. Of course this will give good hopes, where your mind will relax and you will look younger and more beautiful, of course. You will even have new friends and meet. You will have a much broader relationship than before. Sooner or later, the he will be lost in your memory.

 

4. There is nothing wrong if you are traveling.

Give it a try if you are taking a series of trips to areas you haven't visited yet. Of course you have to carefully prepare any areas that you think can help you to restore your mind and heart. go with your friends and have a nice trip. We recommend that you travel to areas that have a clean and harmonious natural environment. It's better if you don't go to night clubs, it will make your mind and heart even worse, especially if you drink a lot of alcohol. Take a walk in the beautiful natural environment like skiing, playing beach volleyball, taking art class, cooking class somewhere, and other positive activities. These activities make you grateful how beautiful this world is if you enjoy it.

5. Continue your education to a higher level.

Are you still a bachelor degree graduate? it would be better if you continue your education to magister. You can choose the best universities that you desire. If you don't have enough money to continue your studies, you can just look for scholarships to continue your studies. Apart from scholarships, certain skills courses can be an affordable option. You can take sewing lessons, cooking lessons, flower arranging, or farming. Most importantly, do these activities with a happy heart, focused mind, and serious.

 

6. Find a better and more enjoyable job.

If your ex-lover is in the office with you, and this can disturb your mind. It would be better if you find a new, better job. What's wrong if you change jobs, let other people's negative talk about you judge that you are a person who cannot control feelings. It would be better if you enter a new work environment that is fun and full of challenges. Choose a job field according to your expertise, good environment, good colleagues, and a definite career path. Hopefully, in your new work environment, you will get glorious and proud achievements and you will achieve unexpected success.

 

7. Be a better person.

Introspect yourself, the cause of your breakup could be due to your own fault. You who are unfaithful to your partner, you who are always unconcerned with your partner, you who may always blame your partner, could be a trigger for the emergence of a rift in your relationship. If it's your fault, apologize to your ex-lover. Separate in a good way, it will relieve your heart of course. Breaking up is a process of maturing towards emotional maturity, thoughts, and looking for a better partner. You certainly have to be a good person, start to be friendly to everyone, help, be generous, be able to be grateful for every situation and condition. Do not you judge that the next partner you might get is not much better than your previous partner, that is wrong thinking. The new partner that you get and of course, if you are tied with a holy promise before God, of course, is a partner that suits you, God does not waste it. Of course, this is balanced with your behavior and attitude in dealing with your partner. If good things are done together, surely your relationship will always last. Hopefully this article can help you understand life and find a better partner. Good luck !