In this life, we often find a figure or several people who disturb our hearts, either with a stare that doesn't like us, words that are not pleasant, or malicious incitement that thinks we are bad people. You need to know that there must be haters. What you have to realize is the reason this person hates you. It could be because your attitude is unpleasant, indifferent, too talkative, or even looks arrogant. If that is the reason, you have to work on yourself to rearrange your bad behavior. However, if someone's attitude of hatred is motivated by jealousy. Of course the problem comes from themselves. Here are tips for when you face the hater.
1. Make the criticism build our progress, not make us pessimistic. The hater's criticism was painful.
They will be more perfect and more detailed to tell your mistakes, both in front of you and others. There are times when you have to prepare yourself to respond to these criticisms. If the criticism refers to your performance which can be said to be unsatisfactory. That's when you have to prove that you deserve to be the best. Begin to discipline yourself in carrying out a job. You have to be on time. Complete your work with precision and accuracy. Start concentrating on getting your work done. There is no more time to be careless, make this criticism as proof that you deserve a thumbs up. But never ask for support from your boss, aka looking for a face. You must improve your life in a pure and kind manner. Because this criticism can indeed be for your own good.
2. Stay mature on social media, don't turn your social media pages into a battlefield of nerves.
If we serve the haters by creating an unpleasant status towards the haters, it may make them excited about your annoyance. Do not become a burden with their criticism or negative talk on social media. Let it go. Good revenge is to silence them and make ourselves much better than them. Responding to all his harsh criticism on social media makes us immature and less attractive. It would be better if we create status on social media with positive activities.
3. Continue to carry out your activities well, if necessary, multiply your activities and expand relationships.
It's no surprise that the hater is our former best friend. Maybe they're the only ones keeping all our secrets. It is better for you to expand your associations and forget about the hater. Expand your activities, maybe you want to join a cooking club, sports, make crafts and so on. Spread positive values and positive conversations. From now on, don't share stories that can lead to arguments and emotions. Make past events a lesson for you to be better in the future. You have to promise yourself to be a good and attractive person. Someone who can be made good friends, can keep secrets in friendship, and be a fun person for a friend who is sad.
4. If the hater makes you even more upset, there's nothing wrong with blocking his/her cellphone number or blocking his/her account.
You do not do hate speech, but the hater still brags on social media, it would be better if you block everything related to the haters. If you look at the statuses, it might worsen the condition of your mental health and your physical health will be disturbed. you are not wrong to do this, the most important thing is not to slander them in front of other people, both to the knowledge of the haters and behind the haters.
5. If the hater hates you for no reason, then you should ask him/her directly.
Your friend who you think is good suddenly hates you. He is indifferent to you, or does not greet you at all, shows an unpleasant face, or even sarcastically teases you, you should ask him directly. You have to be honest that you feel bad about him for you. You can ask him casually, do not let you ask with a look full of anger, dislike or with an unpleasant face. If an answer from the hater expresses his dislike for you, and it turns out to be from your own fault, you are obliged to apologize and promise not to repeat your mistake again. Do the way of apologizing with sincerity and humility and keep hanging out with your friends as usual. However, if they don't say things that make them angry, you should still apologize and act as usual, but you have to be careful because this could be the seed of jealousy from your friends.
6. Do not conspire with other friends to bully the hater.
You need to emphasize that this action is not good. You may be very hurt by the words of the hater, but do not respond with evil either. You are an ordinary human, who has a heart and feelings that are hurt by being hurt, but control your emotions. You don't want to make a crime by doing an experiment that will harm the hater. Remember, these actions will definitely harm you, both in terms of law, friendship, and before God. People will label you as not a persecuted person anymore, but you are labeled as a human who has no feelings and is even said to be a devil-hearted human.
7. If the hater apologizes, forgive his/her mistake.
Forgive the mistake if they apologize. You need to be a wise human being who doesn't need to be jealous and always spreads kindness and peace. If your heart is full of the same hatred they feel, how will we be different from them? be a forgiving person, who can calm others down, be a conditioning for all your friends, and spread a sense of peace to fellow God's creatures on this earth. Life is quite detrimental if you waste your time just spreading hatred and making the atmosphere chaotic. It is better not to discuss things that make the heart jealous and envious, provoke anger, create confusion and so on. It is better if you spread fun stories, give motivation to those around you, give sincere prayers full of kindness to them, so that in the end you can become a pleasant person in the eyes of your friends.
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